"It has become fashionable in therapy circle to hold two beliefs: (a) You can't change another person, only yourself; and (b) you shouldn't change yourself for a relationship or for another person....[But] we change each other all the time. People change for those they love quite often....The relationships that call forth positive change are those that provide a ground of accepting the person....Relationship can illuminate flaws in one's approach to life by exposing one to other ways of thinking and doing things....[Through relationships] we cann learn to recognize and change deeply unconscious patterns."
-Bill O'Hanlon, In Change 101: A Practical Guide to Creating Change in Life or Therapy
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