For a person you loved deeply, would you be willing to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again?
My response:
Define "deeply".
In my twenties I would have answered this question with an unequivocal "YES!".
How stupid we are in our twenties!!!!!!
Now, I'd say yes to love, but with conditions. I would never move for a man without a commitment (hell, I would't rearrange my furniture for a man without a commitment!) In this day of planes, trains and automobiles I find it hard to fathom why a choice like this would be an all or nothing thing.....but yes, I would be willing to sacrifice for love.
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As someone who has spent a sizable portion of my marriage either moving elsewhere for my job on my own, or moving my family with me, I can state that this day of planes, trains and automobiles does not smooth out the wrinkles in such situations. My biggest regrets have to do with moving my family around for my job. And on the flip side, some of my toughest days have been spent hundreds or thousands of miles away from my wife and daughter for months on end.
I am willing to sacrifice for love. My wife and daughter have been willing to sacrifice for love as well. But the math is never as simple as just that. Sometimes it does come down to all or nothing, at least temporarily.
IMNSHO, moves to distant places should be mutually desired by all parties concerned. I talked my family into moving. But that's not what I am advocating. All parties should be encouraged to put their cards on the table before anyone makes any decision. In retrospect I would not have moved on at least two occasions. I would thus have foregone career moves, but I would have been a better husband and father for it.
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